What is a Sissy Fetish?
A sissy fetish is a type of kink where a man wants to be feminized or turned into a sexy, feminine version of themselves for sexually submissive purposes. This feminization process can be done alone or with the accompaniment of a dominant partner of any gender who acts as a “feminizer” or sissy trainer. While sissies don’t have to fool around with men, sissies often “worship cock” whether it’s a real penis attached to a man, or woman, or the artificial cock of a femdom’s strapon.
Crossdressers vs. Sissies
While a sissy fetish involves crossdressing, crossdressers are not necessarily sissies. Crossdressing is defined as a person of any gender who puts on the clothing of the opposite gender. Crossdressers can be masculine or feminine; for example, there are both Drag Queens and Drag Kings. Crossdressing is not inherently a sexual practice on its own and may not have any sexual implications whatsoever.
In contrast, a sissy is always a man who desires to dress in a sexy, feminine way but also engages in some degree of sexual objectification. Someone who has a sissy fetish wants to be sexualized and turned into an object for others’ sexual pleasure in order to derive their own sexual satisfaction.
The Difference Between Transgender and Being a Sissy
Someone who is transgender has a different gender identity than the one they were assigned at birth. They take different gender transition steps, depending upon the individual, to achieve their internal gender identity and gender expression whether that be male, female, or nonbinary.
Sissies are not by default transgender. Though some transgender individuals may find themselves initially interested in exploring the sissy fetish as a way to confront and explore their gender identity, sissies are men born into the correct gender identity and their pursuit of femininity is more so for sexual gratification.
Most sissies only participate in the sissy fetish on a part-time basis with the occasional few who engage in an ongoing BDSM lifestyle. Still, sissification involves aspects of gender identity and gender expression that often allow men a safe venue for exploration they may not otherwise be comfortable with in day-to-day life.
A Sissy is a Sexually Submissive Identity
99% of sissies while they are in a state of sissy fetish play are acting out a submissive fantasy. They may be switches or submissive primarily with their own submissive interests. Some sissies are out to be degraded, others to be used for sexual pleasure, and others may just want to be a “good girl.”
Sissies may only ever engage in solo play with themselves by sucking and riding dildos, or they may play with others. It’s common for sissies to have sex with women, men, and nonbinary people. Anything is allowed when you’re a sissy.
The Sissy Fetish Gives Men Freedom
While our society continues to become more progressive in some ways, in other ways, it is not. Men growing up can find themselves stuck between conflicting messages where they can’t succumb to toxic masculinity, but at the same time, are often stuck in traditional gender roles that are confining. And when men do try to “step outside the box” they’re thrown into one anyway; case in point, the erasure of bisexual men.
By, even if temporarily, stepping outside their gender norms, sissies can explore femininity and their own sexuality through fantasy and play. I found with myself that by putting more attention into my sissy identity–the lingerie I picked, the wigs I wore, etc–that I found myself paying more attention to how I represented myself during my day-to-day life as a man.